>Actually, this rule/scenario probably applies to anyone who works with in the law enforcement community.
Everyday for the past several months I tell myself, “Thank God I’ve met a wonderful man! I’ve never been more relieved to never have to do online dating anymore.”
Not long after my divorce I decided that it was time for me to get out there and date. The problem I had was that I was relatively new to the city I lived in and really didn’t know anyone outside of work. The other problem I had was the long hours I worked made it really hard to meet people.
So….after watching countless advertisements on television, I chose to try out a dating website. I would have to say overall, that online dating is a BIG disappointment. While my experiences weren’t all bad, I don’t know that I would go that route again.
Bachelor number 1: A decent looking-photo on the internet. He’s only a couple years older than me. College educated, divorced with one child. All-in-all not such a bad combination.
We meet for lunch at a pretty nice restaurant for our first date. He’s good-looking and charming. We have a nice time so we agree to meet for a second date. This time it’s a night out on the town.
During the second date he starts asking me more about my career and what it’s like working as a death investigator.
So I start talking about it and the people I work with and then and I mention to him that my coworker’s and I tend to meet a bar not far from where I live one night a week.
Me: You should join us sometime. I think my friends would like you.
Him: Your friends. Yeah. Are any of your friends cops?
Red flag #1. Anytime the guys mentions that, it’s probably not a good sign.
Me: Yeah. Some of them are. Some of them are also retired police officers who work for my office and some of them work in Crime Scene. Why?
Him: I kind of have this thing against cops.
The little voice in my head screams “Run Away! Run Away!”
Him: I’ve been arrested three times. I don’t like cops.
Wow! He neglected to mention that on his online profile. I learned later that night that he was also a gambler and a bookie. This was definitely not someone I could bring home to my mother. I don’t expect the men I date to be perfect but I do expect a clean record.